I posted this in another thread, kinda thought it needed a repost.
There are only so many nurseries, serious cacti gardens and collectors in this country. Most places will have a good idea of what their plants are. Ask the seller, this is the best advice I can give, if they didn't grow it themselves find out who did. It may well be a random hybrid from and old garden or a nursery, the grower might not know what it is but they will be able to tell you what flowering size plants they have and when they flower. which can help narrow down the possibilities. If you have to resort to the internet, mention where you got the plant, even if it's just a town or even which state it was found in can help. I know people hate giving away their "secrets" but knowing where the plant came from greatly helps to identify it.
Hope that helps a little,
Prier.