fyzygy gave good advice!
a good face to face councelor can make a big difference, don't go on seeing somebody , who doesn't "click" with you.
phone counceling services are as well very good at times, call till you "click" with a person.
i struggle with all of the above as well, and prescription drugs, had always bad side effects, (i don't even like sceletium).
moclobomide has been taken off the psb, but is what was suggested. i have used plant maoi's, instead of moclobomide.
as said, sun, excercise and good nutrition make a big difference, as doe's the abilety to end relationships which are not reciprocal beneficial.
lagochilus, withania, and sinicuichi, sun opener, could all help too.
only when you get older like the 60 's one understands how trauma affects us, in so many different ways.