fractal Posted December 13, 2009 That would be cool Fractal..Thanks ok sorry it took so long to reply.. Apparently there is a sydney group but no northern NSW group that they know of. I was told that if you were to go to: http://polyamory.org.au/ you should be able to get in touch with some people near you though Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
souljourney Posted December 13, 2009 ok sorry it took so long to reply.. Apparently there is a sydney group but no northern NSW group that they know of. I was told that if you were to go to: http://polyamory.org.au/ you should be able to get in touch with some people near you though Great..thanks Fractal.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
souljourney Posted January 6, 2010 Great..thanks Fractal.... A Poly forum... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/ And we have some people around the Byron bay area interested and into Polyamory.... a meeting coming up too... here's a facebook link if anyone is keen to join.. http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?topic=12156&post=60913&uid=388542480292#/pages/Open-Relationships-Australia/388542480292?ref=mf Love Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ThunderIdeal Posted January 17, 2010 i'm sure that it won't be like a swingers party. i'm interested to hear how it's different, from somebody whose been. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ref1ect1ons Posted January 19, 2010 I feel people should be allowed to marry/fuck/be with whoever and as many as they want or not. Just depends on what you want, but i do not see it relating to a higher spiritual awareness at all. I dont think the spirit cares much for the ways of the world, and so ppl are free to choose. It is untouched by the workings of the world. Global evolution, if i believed in such a utopian ideal (the idea that we are heading towards future perfection, ie a dream), would not be triggered by something as unimportant as to the context in which people build relationships with those around them. How can someone who is polyamorous(sp?) be more 'spiritually developed' (as if you could be more spritually developed than the person next to you) than someone who seeks a traditional marriage. I think everyone is equal in terms of the spirit. To clarify my point of view, it is true that I personally do not seek polyamourous realtionships. Ok after reviewing a few more post I still dont see how polyamory is somehow more intelligent and rebellious, because it has been practice since humankind began, as with the other relationship types. I see that it suits some people better but these supposed benefits like: -people in polyamorous relationships are less selfish and less jealous simply are not true. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
souljourney Posted January 20, 2010 I feel people should be allowed to marry/fuck/be with whoever and as many as they want or not. Just depends on what you want, but i do not see it relating to a higher spiritual awareness at all. I dont think the spirit cares much for the ways of the world, and so ppl are free to choose. It is untouched by the workings of the world. Global evolution, if i believed in such a utopian ideal (the idea that we are heading towards future perfection, ie a dream), would not be triggered by something as unimportant as to the context in which people build relationships with those around them. How can someone who is polyamorous(sp?) be more 'spiritually developed' (as if you could be more spritually developed than the person next to you) than someone who seeks a traditional marriage. I think everyone is equal in terms of the spirit. To clarify my point of view, it is true that I personally do not seek polyamourous realtionships. Ok after reviewing a few more post I still dont see how polyamory is somehow more intelligent and rebellious, because it has been practice since humankind began, as with the other relationship types. I see that it suits some people better but these supposed benefits like: -people in polyamorous relationships are less selfish and less jealous simply are not true. Yes....polyamory is not for everyone.... nor does anyone try and fit into any system if it doesn't feel right from within....from insights coming from ones own experiences... Personally, being polyamorous, i have found that jealousy, trying to control another, fear of being alone, and sense of 'owning' another have all left my life.... What a joy and relief.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ref1ect1ons Posted January 20, 2010 What a joy and relief.... This same joy relief and freedom is felt in my heart when I express my freedom to be. I just want to say that marriage is joyful and free, as with polyamory, the difference is the people involved. Some ppl say, not necessarily anyone here, say that Marriage is supposedly for the 'unawakened' and is a drudgery. I recently watched Osho assert this very premise. Possessiveness, sefishness may not be evil, I have to admit, I love when girls get all possessive. I know I am male, yes it is true, but it does not mean I have to conform to traditional male roles, and it does not mean I am oppressive or possesive, or less the man i choose to be. I understand that some aspects of my being are less concious than others, but they remain, I am human and not perfect, but rather perfect in my imperfection. And so I still love being possessed at some levels but do not centre myself there. I love the fact that polyamory breaks down traditional gender and relationship roles, this is a big thing for me, to be who I am and free to be. You can say 'well you must have a warped and lower spiritual awareness' but the fact is I still have my way and you all have an EQUALLY beautiful and FULFILLING WAY. After this post I feel that we are on equal grounds and are inherently looking for the same things. Much love Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
souljourney Posted January 21, 2010 (edited) This same joy relief and freedom is felt in my heart when I express my freedom to be. .............. After this post I feel that we are on equal grounds and are inherently looking for the same things. Much love This is sweeeet!!! Yes...we are simply following what we feel is true... being true to ourselves... much love ...thought to add this great website/book... http://www.spiritualpolyamory.com/ i just finished reading it.... loved it...it reflected many of my own insights.... Edited January 21, 2010 by souljourney Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhubarb Posted March 16, 2010 I'm not quite sure of what I think about polyamory. They say that around than 3 - 5% of mammals are monogamous. These are Prairie Voles, they are known to be monogamous, that is they have an exclusive mate for life: These are Barn Owls, they are also known to be monogamous. The male likes to offer the female gifts of field mice during their 'affair of the heart' as a way to show his worth. Some said monogamous animals of Australia are Kookaburras, Azure (or blue) Kingfishers (who are related to Kookaburras), Cassuaries, some possums, magpie-larks... it really goes on. Cassowaries like to make shallow nests with leaves at the floor of rainforest canopies and it seems blue is their favourite colour. And this my friends is a baby cassowary: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ThunderIdeal Posted March 20, 2010 monogamy doesn't imply one partner for life. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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drugo Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) wow, thx for the perspectives rhubarb. A crow onces told me that the universe can be found in a grain of sand, or through the microcosm the macrocosm dwells. I don't think rules, or laws (inc. social laws) are necessarily bad. Actually, I think they are simply building blocks for holding a being's world(s) together. Through specialising will, like choosing an art form such as dance, and exploring worlds through its fundamental idea (movement), we are not being constrained by "rules". Through the "reduction" of life by introducing systems or rules, acute or fine insertions are possible for really getting deep into the heart of things. A la, the universe resides in a grain of sand. I meet a humanoid in India who suggests monogamy seeing that our social framework (like an interface for being) supports monogamy in a myriad of subtle and obvious ways. Also, he reckons that when two lovers are bound tightly by moral-social necessity, so if you break up everyone around you talks shit on you and looks down at you, then when difficulties arise in the relationship the couple accept their destiny of being together and are more likely to try and work through the conflicts, difficulties and darkness which the fusion of love is scintillating like a sparkler. The darkness we see/be in the world is usually, if not sometimes completely, our own personal poo. I think that it is pretty obvious that westerner's (oh hail "liberalism") are famous for running away from loving relationships when conflicts surface. But perhaps in a lot of cases they are simply running away from their inevitable darkness. And like hiding under a pillow in the depths of a dark acid trip, you will never escape this darkness without facing it head on, with a loving accepting heart. The humanoid in India went on to say that the problems and difficulties that two lovers 'create' is actually the dance of their own personal darkness, two souls moving together in a dance which can metamorph from head-banging heavy metal to a Kora (African harp) floating on the clouds. Perhaps by holding onto kinship 'rules', or a deeply engaged world(s), we are more likely to surface the smelly shit in our souls which wants to come out and be transformed. Like compost feeding a honey suckle tree and the bees are our friends. And, finally, once the depths of two beings are traversed and vulnerable like a couple of spirals spinning around each other into an abyss, the 'poo' is usually only about %30 of the relationship. So it ain't all an agonising dance of turning suffering into love. Just a wee bit ;) on that note... will you marry me rhubarb? Edited March 20, 2010 by telepathogen Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ref1ect1ons Posted March 20, 2010 wow, that was quite touching tele, umm I mean insightful, yes most insightful. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhubarb Posted March 30, 2010 monogamy doesn't imply one partner for life. Thanks! I didn't realise. I wrote it thinking it to mean one mate for life not at a time. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rhubarb Posted March 30, 2010 (edited) on that note... will you marry me rhubarb? Edited June 13, 2010 by rhubarb Share this post Link to post Share on other sites