gilligan Posted January 7, 2013 So the mother in law has been given 1-3 months to live. She's a great lady, and has battled a number of cancers over the last few years, but the fucking thing is going to win. We knew endgame would happen, but I'm a sook and this finality cuts deep, pretty hard to not shed a tear :-( it ain't fair, but it never is. Fuck you cancer, and the pestilence you rode in on. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mr b.caapi Posted January 7, 2013 Sorry to hear that mate. i'm sure you will find plenty of support through these forums. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gilligan Posted January 7, 2013 Yeah, I know. Mostly a vent to how fucked it is, and I feel sorry for those who will, are now, or yet to go through anything like it. It sucks balls. Ill have a few good cries and ill be fine, man up and show them emotions! :-) 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Evil Genius Posted January 7, 2013 Fuck you cancer, and the pestilence you rode in on. Second that, Gilligan! Wishing you all the strenght you´ll need for the coming days! My thoughts are with you! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wophezuta Posted January 7, 2013 Sorry to hear this. My father fought cancer for over 3 years and we finally lost him. It was hard to see him go through it. I can't say I know exactly how you feel, but I have been down a similar path, and it was tough for my family as well as myself. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mother-in-law, and your family, and all who are going through this situation Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
indigo264nm Posted January 7, 2013 Sad news. Lets hope in 20 years we have made the advancements in medical sciences that people 20 years back predicted we'd have sorted by now... instead we have iPads and higher definition television. I can empathise with witnessing long term debilitation since autoimmune diseases are the scourge of my bloodline. My thoughts and best wishes are with you and your family. Oh, and stay strong for your partner. I lost some family last year and am so grateful to my partner being a pillar of support... she stood by me a nodded out mess for 2 months and was still around to kiss my forehead as I writhed and sweated in bed detoxing. We all cope different ways, so whatever way your partner deals with the loss of a mother, you're the one that'll need to have your shit together to be there for support in the grieving process. Love n light.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazonian Posted January 7, 2013 Its nice of you to care so much Gilligan. Normally in-laws are not thought of as highly?!. That sounds so wrong, but its true. I am sure there are other people that are not all that fond of their partners parents .(Not that we have BAD thoughts of them. Not to forget we are all people, and are equal). Why is death is always so hard to deal with, like we know its part of life, but shit, its hard. My mum died of cancer many years ago. It was shit. We told the specialist that we didn't want to be given a time frame leading up to her death. I don't know whether that was a good or bad thing. In one way, it was good because we weren't all walking around too sad in the weeks that led up to her death, but in another way, if we had have known it was her final weeks, we would have spent every last minute with her. She ended up in hospital in her last week, and we were told on the weekend that she wasn't going to make the weekend out. That was hard, and from then it was like she had already died. ( Ah, good old mum, we miss you) .Anyway..... I feel your pain gilligan , i know where you are at. How is your mother in-law taking it?... Gawd, it would be so hard for her. I suggest you plant a tree somewhere, in her honer...(maybe with her?) Namaste. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alice Posted January 7, 2013 (edited) Very sorry to hear that Gilligan, it sounds like it's been a long battle for her. How is your partner/wife (?) coping with her mother's diagnosis? Fuck you cancer, and the pestilence you rode in on. Agreed. Edited January 7, 2013 by Alice Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gilligan Posted January 8, 2013 My wife is the stoic one... So I need to watch that carefully. She's doing pretty well, we realised it was coming, and she's got a lot of girlfriends who have gone through similar stuff, so there's a network there for her too... The MiL is cool as, and loves my kids massively, has always been nice to me, we've been on holidays overseas etc with her, so it's not hard to love her. :-) Thanks for the kind words, pity so many of us will face this. :-( And yeah, Amz, no idea why death is so hard to accept, to be 'content' with it as a life moment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
GoOnThen Posted January 8, 2013 Mate I really feel for you and your family. Sadly we all will be touched by this at some time in our lives I don't know what else to say at the moment . If you want to catch up and just talk about shit let me know Cheers Got 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
El Presidente Hillbillios Posted January 8, 2013 Mate i really feel for you. Dont give up yet though. My mum was given three months to live two years ago and is still doing really well. In fact better than she has been for alot of years! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gilligan Posted January 25, 2013 Rip, Jane. You were the best grandmother to my kids, and a pretty good MiL. Fuck you cancer. You fucking cunt. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TheExplorer Posted January 25, 2013 My condolences brother. Jane sounds like she was a beautiful person. Hopefully she went peacefully and the rest of the family stays strong in these tough times. T.E. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alice Posted January 25, 2013 My condolences Gilligan Our thoughts are with you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
