etherealdrifter Posted December 7, 2011 so sad to lose loved ones. I don't know what to say I'm so sorry for your loss nabraxas Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sallubrious Posted December 7, 2011 I saw this this afternoon and to be honest I was just overwhelmed and I had no idea what to say, I still don't. I've got no idea what you are going through but my deepest heartfelt sympathies are with you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tipz Posted December 7, 2011 (edited) Love and light to you nabraxas Edited December 7, 2011 by tipz Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
obtuse Posted December 7, 2011 My thoughts are with you nabraxas. sending lots of love your way. Cheers, Obtuse. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alienteaparty Posted December 7, 2011 Wow. Thats really heavy. I recently lost a friend, and it was overwhelmingly difficult to come to terms with what had happened. I couldn't possibly imagine what you are going through my friend. My deepest thoughts and condolences go out to you and your relatives. Stay strong! <3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
woof woof woof Posted December 7, 2011 My condolences to you Nabraxas. Wish you the strength to cope with your loss. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cisumevil Posted December 7, 2011 My thoughts are with you nabraxas Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nothinghead Posted December 7, 2011 So sorry to hear this Nabraxas, keeping you in my thoughts. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nabraxas Posted December 8, 2011 because of the strike we were unable to cremate Amanda's body yesterday. i was told to be at the hospital at 7am today so we could get an early start. at 12 midday i was still waiting for anything to happen in the same emergency room where Amanda was pronounced dead. that was abit harsh but i was able to find some over the counter valium which has really helped me keep it together. eventually we headed off for the cremation site on the bank of a river. there were about 20 local men who came along to help w/the rituals etc. i had to wash her body, which was abit hard as the post mortem had cut her head open...not pretty. but other than that it was a beautiful ceremony & i think Amanda would have really appreciated it. on the way back the bus stopped for refreshments & i explained that it;s tradition in my country for mournersto have a drink of spirits to see the departing soul on it's way. apart from the two Bramins everybody else was happy to have a drink & we all toasted Amanda's spirit. don't know if it's the valium, alcohol or just the relief of getting the cremation out of the way, but i'm actually feeling pretty good. tomorrow i go to police to get my passport back, aswell as the death certificate & autopsy results; then i should be able to fly to Kathmandu & then back to Aus. much love to everybody. best wishes Simon XXXXXX Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jonstn Posted December 8, 2011 it would have been difficult in the morning just waiting around, sounds like a beautiful ceremony though mate! Glad to hear you are feeling good so sad to lose a loved one but the memories will be with you forever, as will a part of her. Good luck buddy, you seem really strong minded Peace Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Amazonian Posted December 8, 2011 Hey nabraxas. Maybe you are in shock, and have had to hold it all together to get things done?. You are very strong . You travel safe now. We are here for you, and grieving with you. All the best man. Amz Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nabraxas Posted December 9, 2011 thanks guys. off to the district police commissioners office soon to get our passports back, as well as the death cert. & post mortem results. then i will try & find a flight to Kathmandu & then back to Aus. to face Amanda's family & friends. not looking forward to that. your support has really been helpful, no one here speaks English & i've been feeling all alone except for you on-line folks. Cheers Simon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
El Presidente Hillbillios Posted December 9, 2011 Don't know really what to say, just wanted to comment so you know im thinking about you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Horus Posted December 9, 2011 Dear Nabraxas, I hope sharing your story with the open hearted people on this forum,a virtual family ,has helped you process the start of this new journey out of this darkness. So vivid are the images from this story I visualised the whole thing and experienced a fraction of the sorrow you must be feeling. You have shown great strength to go thru another cultures funeral practice,though it does sound more tactile than our sterile system.I am sure she was a unique woman to have a unique farewell. Stay strong brother,there is a lot of energy supporting you here. Col. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
naja naja Posted December 9, 2011 thinking of u man, sending all my love ur way. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heretic Posted December 9, 2011 Tragic . I am lost for words . My most sincere condolences . Tom Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Torsten Posted December 9, 2011 what an ordeal! I am so sorry and wish we could help somehow. anything we can do? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OpticalLight Posted December 10, 2011 I'm so sorry, we're here if you need to talk Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bℓσωηG Posted December 10, 2011 infinite in spirit mate... peace Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Yawning Man Posted December 12, 2011 I just read this Nabraxas. I am deeply sorry for your loss, in such a tragic and sad way especially. I know you must be stronger after having gone though that. I'm throwing my support along with everyone elses for you. You deserve it brother. Peace and happiness to you!!! cheers Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nabraxas Posted December 12, 2011 thanks for the kind words guys they really mean alot. had an appointment at the district police commisioners office at 7am, but as usual nothing happened until midday when i was informed that the post mortem was inconclusive & that Amanda's viscera was being sent to Kathmandu for expert analysis. I was also informed that i was the chief suspect in my wifes death & that i should stay in Kathmandu in case the autopsy required further questioning, i was told i could go home but as the process should only take 3 days, it's better i stay. The Australian ambassador said that was true to a point, but it could take 3 months & i could always answer their questions by phone. i arrived in Kathmandu Friday night & have to wait 'til Monday 3pm before i can see the ambassador again & organise a trip home. Nothing to do but kill time. i got top grade hash, clonazepam , etc. + loads ov beer. not feeling much at all really; except you kind thoughts. love & light Simon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
naja naja Posted December 12, 2011 If I were u, I'd be bacc in Australia ASAP. I wouldn't trust a foreign countries legal system! Remember, were here to help if u need it. Peace brother Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
faustus Posted December 12, 2011 the death of a loved one is something that words can't allay so instead i hope that your sadness is one that you can bear. even though it must have hurt alot, the ceremony she had sounds very touching Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
myco Posted December 12, 2011 i kind of agree with naja naja there i really wouldnt trust a foreign country's legal system this story is like a nightmare already i cant imagine how much worse it would be for you to be blamed for this tragedy however leaving may look very bad on your part i dont really know what to say other than we are all here for you and sending much love your way and again im terribly sorry to hear of your loss hang in there friend Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ballzac Posted December 12, 2011 I agree with that, but at the same time, it's good that they're being thorough, and hopefully they can determine the exact cause of death which I think would provide you with some more closure. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites